Be an optimist
No one can tell the future, we don’t have a crystal ball. You might has well be an optimist, assume the best and live you life. Don’t create a self fulfilling prophecy.
What you focus on expands. It’s something I’ve learned more than once. If you focus on the negative, you’ll find it. It will be everywhere you look.
Focus on the positive and the same thing happens. I think it’s not so much you creating the situation but more noticing it and it affects your response, how you feel and ultimately what you do.
There is an old story that illustrates this.
“A man entered a village and went to the monastery on the edge of town, where he was welcomed by an old monk, the wise man of the village. The visitor said, “I am deciding whether I should move here or not. I’m wondering what kind of neighborhood this is. Can you tell me about the people here?”
The old monk said, “Tell me what kind of people lived where you came from.” The visitor said, “Oh, they were highway robbers, cheats and liars.” The monk said, “You know, those are exactly the same kinds of people who live here.” The visitor left the village and never came back.
Half an hour later, another man entered the village. He sought out the wise old man and said, “I’m thinking of moving here. Can you tell me what kind of people live here?” Again the monk said, “Tell me what kind of people lived where you came from.” The visitor said, “Oh, they were the kindest, gentlest, most compassionate, most loving people. I shall miss them terribly. The old monk said, “Those are exactly the kinds of people who live here, too.”
You will find what you seek. What you focus on expands.
Be an optimist. It will turn out better.
Thanks for listening,
Jerry Robertson